• DearAmbitiousGirl

The Secret - Attracting What You Want In Life

Author: Tyana M

It’s easy for us to observe the prosperous lives of others and assume that they’re ‘lucky’ and that everything just falls into place for them. But, what we don’t see is the mental work done behind closed doors that is partially responsible for their successes. What if I told you that you can create the exact life that you desire through words and a shift in mindset? You probably wouldn’t believe me but I’m here to tell you that it’s possible and I am living through this as we speak.

I’ve been holding off on writing this piece because in order for it to have the effect that I’d like, I’ll have to be a bit more transparent and open which I don’t always feel comfortable doing. Although, I feel so strongly about sharing this that I’m going to put those reservations aside.

I want to talk about a Netflix documentary I watched called The Secret. It introduced me to the Law of Attraction (LOA) and how to begin implementing healthier practices that aided in crafting my own destiny.

Summer 2018 was a very tough one. I lost my uncle, I was experiencing post graduate depression (IT IS REAL) and I wasn’t dating the right person for me. If you know me, then you know that I am very good at controlling my emotions but it just seemed as though everything was happening at once and I reached a point where I had no idea how to cope with everything.

My best friend and I were having very similar (sad) summers. One night she called and says “Tyana you have to watch ‘The Secret’ on Netflix” and I’m like “what’s the Secret?” She says, “It’s going to change your life, I’m so much happier now, did you know that you’re literally in control and that you don’t have to be sad, you can have anything you want.” At this point I’m looking at my phone like...ok I’m sure it’s good but you may be exaggerating. I’d like to point out that I am a very faithful person but I was just at a very low point so a lot of that faith had dissipated.

Anyway, I took her advice and watched it and I’m here to tell you that she was absolutely right.

The Secret challenges you to change your entire outlook on life. It teaches you that you can have the life you want by believing just that. A lot of us approach our desires from a place of desperation and lack but The Secret prompts you to train your mind to know that you already have the things that you want. Below are 3 lessons that I learned after watching the documentary and tips on how to implement these lessons in your everyday life:

1. Speak your desires in the present tense

If done properly your mindset will go from “I want a new car” to “I have a new car.” This seems minor but that one word changes everything. By affirming that you already have what you want, you begin to walk in that destiny. You are no longer yearning for it because it’s yours and soon enough it will actually come to fruition.

2. Think positively, positive thoughts foster positive outcomes

Has something ever happened to you and the first thing you say is “I knew that was going to happen.” There is 100% truth to that statement because what you think, you attract. So practice taking control of your thoughts while eliminating negativity and watch the narrative shift.

3. Stop focusing on what you don’t want to happen, frame what you want only in positives

What you fear, you attract. Have you ever been on your way out and say to yourself “I hope I don’t see anyone I know” and as soon as you get to your destination you see five people you know? That’s because you attracted it.

A useful way to control negative thoughts is through positive affirmations. Those are, positive statements that you repeat to help challenge negative convictions. For example, “My business brings in over 10K per month.” Even if that’s not currently the case, positive affirmations train you to state it that way and eventually it will be true.

As soon as I incorporated positive affirmations into my life, I witnessed a change and the below story is proof.

Last November, I wrote down a list of 10 affirmations and began saying them before I left to work in the morning and before going to bed at night. At the time, I was living in Albany but planned to move back home to Long Island in December so one of my affirmations was “I have a job in New York City that I love.” I said that everyday for six weeks. I moved back home a few days before Christmas, and I was consumed with last minute Christmas shopping so I wasn’t really focused on applying to jobs. About two weeks went by and I received an email from the Hiring Manager at Discovery Communications on January 8th that said “Hi I received a copy of your resume. Please let me know your availability for a video call on Fri or next week.” Now, I submitted my resume for a position at the end of the Summer through an internship program that I completed my junior year. I never actually applied to the position on the website so I was very surprised when I received this email. After multiple interviews, I got the position and am now approaching one year as an Ad Sales Assistant for Oprah Winfrey Network, TLC, Food Network and Cooking Channel. This is something that I did not think I’d be able to say after only two weeks of moving back home but, I worked towards it, affirmed it, believed it and it came true.

So I say all of this to say, if there is something that you would like to come to fruition in your life do the work, accept it as true and it will become just that.

Disclaimer: By no means does this advocate towards physically doing nothing to reach your goals and thinking that they will come true. You will have to do everything in your power to pursue your dreams while also already believing them to be true. There is actually more work involved here.