Why is Knowing Your Love Language Important?
Author: Desiree M.
Have you heard of a thing called “love languages?” I heard this phrase a few years ago and I was amazed by the concept. Whether we know it or not, we all have a love language. It is how we communicate affection to each other. It is not only how we express love, but it is also how we receive love. The 5 love languages are: Words of Affirmations, Gifts, Acts of Service, Quality Time, and Physical Touch. I feel as though it is important to know your partner’s love language. A couple told me a story on how they never really realized they had love languages until they read the book “The Five Love Languages.” Her husband was so into giving gifts so he thought that getting her jewelry and perfumes would make her happy. She received those gifts and was appreciative of it but she valued Quality Time more and just liked him to be around and be attentive to her. That makes a big difference in how someone receives the gesture because she felt way more loved and appreciated when she got the quality time over the jewelry. Love languages help you strengthen your bond and relationship with one another.
When you know your love languages, you know what makes you feel more appreciated. For me, I love quality time. So when I am able to have fun, quality time with my friends and family where everyone is attentive and not on their phone, I feel loved because I feel as though we are creating memorable moments. On the other hand, I also enjoy acts of service. When someone offers to do something for me without asking, I really look at that person in a different light because they didn’t have to do that.
Knowing your love language allows you to communicate your needs more. In any relationship, whether a friendship or a romantic relationship, understanding the other person emotionally can take your relationship to a whole other level. Go online and take the quiz to find out what your love language is.