• DearAmbitiousGirl


Author: D. Carter

Have you ever noticed that when you’re about to embark on a blessing or a life altering change that everything around you starts to crumble? Relationships, your health, finances and anything else that you can possibly think of just starts to fall apart. Piece by piece. Brick by brick.

Those my friends are what I call Distractions. To me distractions can either be positive or negative. Sometimes it can be a combination of both. However, they are put in place to check your growth, test your strength and to see if you are serious about the goals that you have in mind. I personally, look at distractions as indications that I’m on the right track and I must keep going.

Life has always shown me that before things can come together, things have to fall apart. It’s just up to me to keep pushing and doing what I set forth to do. Let me start with the beginning of this year. In November and December, I was in the process of mentally preparing myself to start making better changes within my life. I wanted to succeed and not just let another year go by without me accomplishing anything besides just existing and taking care of others and not myself. I said I was going to start exactly on January 1st and get the ball rolling on my goals. I literally wrote it down on a piece of paper, circled it and was ready to go.

However, my new year didn’t start off that way at all. On January 2nd, I was called by my brother and told to come back home to Connecticut, because my mother was in the hospital and not doing well. So of course, I jumped in the car and drove from Maryland to Connecticut as fast as I could. I ended up staying in Connecticut for about 1 to 2 weeks. To make sure my mom was ok and to help deal with some personal family issues that were taking place at the time. When I got back in the car to head home, I was completely stressed out and completely stretched too thin both mentally and physically. So, my goals at that point were thrown on the back burner. There was just way too much going on and I wasn’t able to focus. Internally, I was terrified that it would be another year of existing in vain. Especially, if I didn’t get started right away. However, this time it was different. Simply because my goals never left my mind. They were always at the forefront of my brain. So, I was definitely on the right track. I just didn’t know it.

Now I won’t say it was a smooth transition because it wasn’t. I had to deal with all the different issues that took place in CT, take care of my family and get my mind together. So, it took me some time to regroup, shake off the bad juju and get refocused. My New Year started on January 28th. And, I haven’t looked back since. What I took from that experience was life is going to hit you upside the head when you least expect it. However, it’s up to you to keep making progress. It’s going to be hard at times and you may to want to give up. But I will say this, when it gets harder keep going. Keep pushing and never lose sight of what you have envisioned. It only means that you are getting closer to the change that you have been working so hard for.

I’ve had different distractions come up against me since the day my new year started. I had a friend that started acting weird and being completely unsupportive, I battled my mental state more than I would like to admit, I struggled with focusing at my job and staying committed to it, I struggled with my motherhood at times, I struggled to focus and I struggled to get past my fear of failure. It wasn’t easy and I know it’s not going to get any easier. However, I welcome every single distraction. Whether it be positive, negative or a combination of both.

Without these distractions I might not be where I am right now. Writing this blog post hoping to encourage and uplift another sister that’s going through it. I wouldn’t have the strength to keep pushing past my limitations and fears. I wouldn’t be on the path to happiness and I wouldn’t be living a more fulfilling life. My advice to you would be to embrace your distractions. They are only pushing you towards your blessings and to the life that you want to live. Keep on pushing love, you got this!

Until next time,

D. Carter