• DearAmbitiousGirl

It's A Marathon, Not A Race

Author: Tyana M.

As I approach my one year college graduation anniversary, I reflect. A lot of thoughts have crossed my mind lately about my future and how I will achieve success. For the past nine months I’ve gone through so many emotions from excitement, happiness and determination to discouragement, disappointment and an overall lack of motivation. Post graduate depression is very real but there are ways to overcome the thoughts that plague you.

Before graduation, I had my post-grad agenda sorted out, so I thought. I planned to take one year off to save money and strengthen my applications and supplements. I have been working towards that goal since June although everything has not gone as planned and I am probably going to have to wait longer than I originally intended. I want to submit the strongest possible applications and make the most financially sound decision for my future because I am the only one that will have to deal with those decisions. I know I’m not the only one going through a situation such as this one and just wanted to communicate that you are NOT alone. As recent college graduates we feel a lot of pressure to have it all figured out as soon as we walk across the stage. Some do have it all figured out which is great, but if you don’t like myself, you too will be just fine.

We must keep our young ages in mind and start to realize that taking a year or two off will certainly not be detrimental to our success. What’s for you has already been written and what’s meant for you will never pass you. As long as you devise a calculated plan and work as hard as you possibly can towards making that come to fruition you will prosper. There WILL be bumps along the road and everything will NOT happen as you expect it to. So before embarking on your journey, accept that. Once you do, you will be able to maneuver through whatever curveballs life throws at you.

Last but most definitely not least do not compare. Social media can be a blessing and a curse because on one hand you’re motivated to perform just as great as your peers, if not better. But on the other, you begin to criticize yourself according to their achievements and successes which are absolutely not a reflection of how well you’ve done for yourself. Comparison is dangerous because almost no one announces their losses until after they’ve won. You are most likely unaware of the hurdles that people jumped over to get where they are. For example, one of my friends just landed a job at a major media company in one of the largest cities in the U.S. I spoke with him recently and congratulated him on this major accomplishment. I was just like wow, that’s so dope you’re so blessed to have gotten this opportunity. He turned looked at me and said, “I’ve only told a few other people this, I haven’t even told my parents but, I had to sleep on the street for two nights before I started my job. I went to orientation in a button down, jogger pants and Chelsea boots and just made it work.” I looked at him in utter disbelief because if you follow him on Instagram or LinkedIn, you would never know, you’d just think wow look at him working at one of the most established media companies in the country, I want to be like him. There were downfalls that came with his accomplishment and there are also downfalls that come with yours.

So, I say all of this to say, stay in your own lane and do not rush because some of the worst decisions are made from desperation. Just because your friends post their acceptances and job offers does not mean that you are less than. If you put in the work, your time will come, it’s just that simple. Congratulate and celebrate your friends while working toward achieving your dream. Lastly, please always remember that this is a marathon, not a race.

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